Wishing you were HERE...
The upcoming "special day" is making life pretty hectic around here. It is amazing the kinds of silly details you feel compelled to worry about- it is as if you will be graded and need to make everything the best possible. I have to keep reminding myself that no one really cares, nor notices all that much what you have done or what choices you have made. Besides- who cares what people think- it is OUR "special day"... Anyways.
Since I haven't really had time to write, I thought I would stick in a couple of anecdotes that have reminded me that life goes on no matter what kinds of decisions I have made about my wedding. (warning... this is a long, meandering post.)
The first anecdote is that a good friend of mine, who I lived with at the end of college and actually stood up for in her wedding, let me know that she wasn't going to make it to my wedding. (I have to admit, I am sad about it.) She just had a baby (three weeks early) and he is colicky. She is getting no sleep, is afraid of traveling all the way here from Ohio with the baby, and finally decided not to come when she thought of getting kicked out the hotel because of the baby crying all night long. (Incidentally, she told me that one night recently when the baby had screamed for three hours straight, her husband laying in bed, said, "it is astounding to me right now that there are more than 6 billion people in the world.")
So Karen is not coming to the wedding. The next best thing happened the other day, though, and this reminded me of a lot of the good times we did have. Part of the time I lived with her she was planning her wedding (which I learned a lot from), so almost every day the UPS guy would stop, I would sign something, and she would get boxes from Marshall Fields, etc. with great gifts that she had registered for inside. Two of the things WE ended up using the most before she moved away with them, were the "Stir Crazy" popcorn maker and the Rice Cooker. Many a night we would end up with a big bowl of popcorn between us, after going out, and that would be our late dinner. So naturally when I registered for gifts at Target these two items went on the registry immediately. I had never really thought about buying them for myself, but the possibility of having them to use again was all of a sudden really exciting.
So the other day, my doorbell rang. There on the front porch were boxes from UPS- the Stir Crazy and the Rice Cooker. The note on the inside said, "Sorry we can't make it to your special day. We hope it is perfect. We wanted to send our love with two of the most often used appliances in our kitchen- as you know. Happy eating and enjoy! Love, Karen and Chuck"
It made me realize that even if they won't be there, at least their thoughts and wishes will be.
The other anecdote is really just an email I got a few days ago from two former students that have emailed me periodically since they graduated my last year teaching at NHS. I liked the email from them for the same reason I liked the gifts and thoughts from Karen. Knowing that they are thinking of me, wanting me to know what they are doing, and sending some humor along with it really brightens my life. Here is the email, (altered to disguise real identities of course)
Well hello there Kloumr! Kal and I were just letting you know that we will
be happy to attend your special day. (If it hasnt already happened, and if it
has we had a great time!) There is no need to worry, appropriate attire will be
worn. Kal has gotten line tattoos on her legs to make sure her skirts and
shorts are always long enough. They look really nice. Enough of this horseing
around (serious about coming to the wedding though). I had a great time at
school, Arizona is just the place for me! I've decided to go into optometry
even though the political world is calling my name! haha! Kal is going to
school at A**** in yourcity this summer, saving the world one bad hair cut
at a time. We have an apartment together about two blocks from her school, also
very close to/////. The summer has been going pretty well for both of us.
We hope everything is going well for you with your new job and relaxing summer.
Hope to hear from you soon!
Bynn and Kal
P.S. We think our invitation got lost in the mail so if you could just send it
again that would be great.
315 University Ave. SE APT# 555
Somecity, SS 55555
Often times I am sad that I have lived in different cities and been involved in so many different groups, taught at different schools, etc.- it feels because of that, that I am constantly moving away from people that mean a lot to me. I guess even going to such a large university where I came into contact with people that ended up moving all over the country post-college had the same effect. When I think of the friends that K and I made in college, together or separately, none of them still play a really big role in our lives- they live too far away and have moved on with their lives just like we have- in our own places. My fiance, on the other hand, like most of his group of friends, grew up here, went to college here, and settled here, with little or no experience not here.
Although I am glad that I have lived in other places, sometimes I see the benefit to that arrangement of staying close. You really know where you live, your family is close, your friends from college (and high school) all live right around you- you don't really have to start over again. All the people that matter the most to you are around (a few exceptions, of course.) I really have come to love the social network that exists from Jff's college days. I sometimes even wish I had gone to that college, just because it would be more fun to have been really a part of it and to be there for the stories I have heard thousands of times. When I examine who is really apart of my life and my wedding now, it is the people that live here, the people I see almost every weekend, the people that Jff has known since his college days. There is something really comforting there.
Either way, I guess when I think about my wedding and the people that are well wishing from around the country, but won't be there, I am finding ways to be glad about it. I am happy that I have had such a chance to know and to really enjoy so many different people that are doing so many different things now. Although they may never be apart of my life here, they will be sending Stir Crazys, Rice Cookers, and emails in honor of our previous lives together and wishing me luck in my next life change. I think that is good enough.
Since I haven't really had time to write, I thought I would stick in a couple of anecdotes that have reminded me that life goes on no matter what kinds of decisions I have made about my wedding. (warning... this is a long, meandering post.)
The first anecdote is that a good friend of mine, who I lived with at the end of college and actually stood up for in her wedding, let me know that she wasn't going to make it to my wedding. (I have to admit, I am sad about it.) She just had a baby (three weeks early) and he is colicky. She is getting no sleep, is afraid of traveling all the way here from Ohio with the baby, and finally decided not to come when she thought of getting kicked out the hotel because of the baby crying all night long. (Incidentally, she told me that one night recently when the baby had screamed for three hours straight, her husband laying in bed, said, "it is astounding to me right now that there are more than 6 billion people in the world.")
So Karen is not coming to the wedding. The next best thing happened the other day, though, and this reminded me of a lot of the good times we did have. Part of the time I lived with her she was planning her wedding (which I learned a lot from), so almost every day the UPS guy would stop, I would sign something, and she would get boxes from Marshall Fields, etc. with great gifts that she had registered for inside. Two of the things WE ended up using the most before she moved away with them, were the "Stir Crazy" popcorn maker and the Rice Cooker. Many a night we would end up with a big bowl of popcorn between us, after going out, and that would be our late dinner. So naturally when I registered for gifts at Target these two items went on the registry immediately. I had never really thought about buying them for myself, but the possibility of having them to use again was all of a sudden really exciting.
So the other day, my doorbell rang. There on the front porch were boxes from UPS- the Stir Crazy and the Rice Cooker. The note on the inside said, "Sorry we can't make it to your special day. We hope it is perfect. We wanted to send our love with two of the most often used appliances in our kitchen- as you know. Happy eating and enjoy! Love, Karen and Chuck"
It made me realize that even if they won't be there, at least their thoughts and wishes will be.
The other anecdote is really just an email I got a few days ago from two former students that have emailed me periodically since they graduated my last year teaching at NHS. I liked the email from them for the same reason I liked the gifts and thoughts from Karen. Knowing that they are thinking of me, wanting me to know what they are doing, and sending some humor along with it really brightens my life. Here is the email, (altered to disguise real identities of course)
Well hello there Kloumr! Kal and I were just letting you know that we will
be happy to attend your special day. (If it hasnt already happened, and if it
has we had a great time!) There is no need to worry, appropriate attire will be
worn. Kal has gotten line tattoos on her legs to make sure her skirts and
shorts are always long enough. They look really nice. Enough of this horseing
around (serious about coming to the wedding though). I had a great time at
school, Arizona is just the place for me! I've decided to go into optometry
even though the political world is calling my name! haha! Kal is going to
school at A**** in yourcity this summer, saving the world one bad hair cut
at a time. We have an apartment together about two blocks from her school, also
very close to/////. The summer has been going pretty well for both of us.
We hope everything is going well for you with your new job and relaxing summer.
Hope to hear from you soon!
Bynn and Kal
P.S. We think our invitation got lost in the mail so if you could just send it
again that would be great.
315 University Ave. SE APT# 555
Somecity, SS 55555
Often times I am sad that I have lived in different cities and been involved in so many different groups, taught at different schools, etc.- it feels because of that, that I am constantly moving away from people that mean a lot to me. I guess even going to such a large university where I came into contact with people that ended up moving all over the country post-college had the same effect. When I think of the friends that K and I made in college, together or separately, none of them still play a really big role in our lives- they live too far away and have moved on with their lives just like we have- in our own places. My fiance, on the other hand, like most of his group of friends, grew up here, went to college here, and settled here, with little or no experience not here.
Although I am glad that I have lived in other places, sometimes I see the benefit to that arrangement of staying close. You really know where you live, your family is close, your friends from college (and high school) all live right around you- you don't really have to start over again. All the people that matter the most to you are around (a few exceptions, of course.) I really have come to love the social network that exists from Jff's college days. I sometimes even wish I had gone to that college, just because it would be more fun to have been really a part of it and to be there for the stories I have heard thousands of times. When I examine who is really apart of my life and my wedding now, it is the people that live here, the people I see almost every weekend, the people that Jff has known since his college days. There is something really comforting there.
Either way, I guess when I think about my wedding and the people that are well wishing from around the country, but won't be there, I am finding ways to be glad about it. I am happy that I have had such a chance to know and to really enjoy so many different people that are doing so many different things now. Although they may never be apart of my life here, they will be sending Stir Crazys, Rice Cookers, and emails in honor of our previous lives together and wishing me luck in my next life change. I think that is good enough.
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